Emotions Control Life Outcomes
Success in career, friendship, love, and family is determined mainly by how we deal with emotions, which often run our lives without our realization.
45Emotional Intelligence
How to Master Your Emotions and Stop Being Controlled by Them
Dr. Marc Brackett explains how emotional intelligence determines success in career, friendship, and family, offering a five-step framework to master feelings.
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Emotional Intelligence Is Learnable
Research proves that emotional intelligence is a skill that 90% of people were never taught, but it can be learned at any age to change behavior and relationships.
61617Recognize Emotions Before They Take Over
A key step in mastering emotions is recognizing what you are feeling before it hijacks your decisions, relationships, and goals.
910Redirect Energy for Positive Thinking
The framework involves redirecting energy for more positive thinking and stopping negative thoughts from taking over your life.
714Improve Relationships and Health
Developing emotional intelligence improves relationships and health by helping individuals stop taking things so personally and reducing anger.
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The Expert
Dr. Marc Brackett and the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence
Dr. Marc Brackett is the Founder & Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. His research focuses on emotional intelligence as the primary skill shaping life outcomes.
36The Problem
The Hidden Control of Emotions
Many people are controlled by their emotions without realizing it, leading to hijacked decisions, strained relationships, and unmet goals.
159Questions
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Why are emotions considered the main determinant of success?
Because success in virtually every aspect of life, including career, friendship, love, and family, is determined mainly by how we deal with emotions.
4Can emotional intelligence be learned later in life?
Yes, research is clear that you can learn emotional intelligence at any age, and it is never too late to start.
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Are you going to keep being controlled by your emotions for the rest of your life?
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The answer is no.
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Because today, Dr. Marc Brackett, PhD, the world’s leading expert on emotional intelligence is here to tell you,
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“Success in virtually every aspect of life – career, friendship, love, and family – is determined mainly by one thing: how we deal with emotions.”
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Because your emotions are running your life – and you don’t even realize it.
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Dr. Brackett is the Founder & Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence whose research proves that your life is being shaped by the one skill that 90% of people were never taught: emotional intelligence.
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Today, Dr. Brackett will give you his research-backed framework to master your emotions, redirect your energy for more positive thinking, and become more emotionally intelligent in 5 simple steps.
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In this episode you’ll learn:
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-How your emotions are hijacking your decisions, relationships, and goals
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-How to recognize what you’re feeling before it takes over
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-Why you suppress your emotions and what you should be doing instead
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-How to stop taking everything so personally
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-How emotional intelligence improves your relationships and your health
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-How to stop negative thoughts from taking over your life
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-How to get less angry and bothered by the people around you
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Dr. Brackett’s research is clear: You can learn emotional intelligence at any age. It’s never too late.
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After today you will know how to deal with what you feel and you will finally change your behavior, your relationships, and your entire life.
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